I tried everything from no contact to sending flowers and still nothing works
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I was with my ex girlfriend for 10 yrs and we broke up about six months ago. I was talking to a few girls but nothing serious and wasnít very affectionate for the past three years. She was very upset and very hurt with the situation and she state that she didnít love me anymore. And she cannot be with me because she will hurt me and she want to do her. I do regret what I have done and realize I do love her more than anything in this world. I tried everything from no contact to sending flowers and still nothing works. However the first few months after the breakup she would call my mom to talk and call me time to time but then stop. Also when she did call she was very cold but I didnít care because she called me so I was very happy.
Well to make the story short, on her on birthday I went by her home at midnight to be the first to wish her Happy Birthday and she let me in and we talk but not about the relationship. That night I asked her out and she said yes so I was very happy and shocked. However that weekend I called to confirmed and she replied by saying sorry she is not able to make it tonight. I was hurt but didnít show it over the phone. She did state if we can go next week but I have a feeling she just saying so that I donít feel so hurt. She knows me very well. Anyway that my storyÖYes one more thing during that week of her birthday she keep saying that she really doesnít go out much and how she just stays home and so on. I wasnít sure if that was a hint or she just trying to tell me she happy aloneÖShe also said that she want to move out of NYC. My friends say she just want to see your reaction. L
So Iím thinking should I let her go and if it meant to be then it meant to be or donít give up? To be honest I feel like I canít win. I tried being her friend and yes if I do call and she does answer with an attitude but she does calm down and starts talking to me and she still contacts my mom time to time. Is like her heart is close or she doesnít know what she wantsÖto be honest I donít know I just want to be with her and marry her. PLEASE HELP!!!!
Why not wait until next week and see if you puts you off again.
I see signs of hope for your relationship from what you said. She calls your mother, talks to you, even accepted a date from you.
My advice is to continue working on the relationship and hope for the best!
-- from George
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