My Ex is Sending Body Language
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Hi im just wondering if you can help me work out what my ex boyf who finished with me means by his body language cos i still like him. He ;
-gets nervous when i talk to him
-starts sorting his 'quiff' on his hair
-always plays with his hands or something
-only looks at me when he thinks im not looking then looks away
-bites his bottom lip when passing and sometimes has his hands in his pockets and looks downwards
-stands with his back to me sometimes
-but then suddenly turns round and for example complimented me on my hair which is strange since we fell out over him dumping me
-i once saw his friend nudge him when i passed im sure of it
-he talks loud enough for me to hear and listens to things some ppl next to me dont even hear
PLEASE help me as we fell out bcos he finished with me but i cant help but feel he regrets it, and i still like him
Thanks so much, I know you'll tell me the truth!
There's never any way to know for sure why someone does something except to ask them :) There are claims that "Doing THIS means THAT" but they are never really right. If one person mumbles out of shyness, another mumbles out of embarassment that they like you and a third mumbles because they don't like you and are trying to get rid of you.
Your ex could be nervous because he doesn't know how to deal with an ex. It can be a very confusing thing. Or he could be nervous because he still likes you and doesn't know what to do. Or he could be nervous because he's upset with you about something, and doesn't want to deal with it. People don't break up because they're happy. They break up because something made them unhappy. So the question is, what made him unhappy? If he didn't even tell you that when he broke up with you, you deserve to know. If he was mature enough to ask you out, he better be mature enough to break up with you in a reasonable way. Just saying "Goodbye!" is not reasonable.
Anyway, if you're interested in him still, the first steps are to rebuild a good friendship and to find out what caused him to be unhappy before. You can do both at the same time pretty easily. Work on talking to him, being a friend and learning more about the breakup. Otherwise even if you do get back together again it's very likely you'll just break up again, because you never solved the problem the first time around.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com