My Date Isn't Calling
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I went on two dates with this guy. He said he had a good time,and I said I had a good time. 6 days have gone by and he hasn't called. He never gave me his # so I can't just call him. I want to move on, I know that's what I should do, but it just hurts. It hurts so much. There's a hole in my heart, and it just keeps getting bigger every time a relationship ends.
It's very strange that you didn't have his number. What if something had come up and you had to cancel the date? That's one of the first things that people do, exchange numbers. Very odd.
In any case, dates are trial runs. They're not really meant to succeed all the time! It's about dating a bunch of people, seeing which you like, which you don't like, what you enjoy, what you hate. It's sort of like going into a jelly bean factory and seeing 80 thousand colors of jelly beans. You start trying different ones and after a while you get a sense for which types you enjoy.
This shouldn't be putting holes in your heart. You're learning valuable things from each person you date. They're not all going to work out. But they're all going to show you more about life and dating. Part of the valuable thing you learn is that life has its ups and downs, and if you keep on going it gets better.
So think of the fun things you learned from this situation. One, always have the person's phone number!! Two, guys that don't bother to call you and tell you what's up are jerks. So it's good you found this out now rather than later. Chin up, there are 80 quadrillion more guys out there and some of them are just perfect for you. Go out on some more dates and see what you find :)
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com