Me and my girlfriend who I love with all my heart broke up. It's been five days
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I'm sorry to ask but it is killing me. Me and my girlfriend who I love with all my heart broke up. It's been five days. At first I wanted to kill myself but then I went to a hospital to get help. I don't want to die but my heart feels like it's failing on me. Since we've been apart I have thought nothing but her. I can't help it. I try not to but I love her to much. We planned on having kids and getting married even though we're only 16. I got a job so I could take her out places. I just lost my will to live but at the same time I don't wanna die. I love life but I love my ex. She says she loves me but she just wants to go out with this other guy. She has cheated on me in the past and I just don't know what to do. I've done everything I can but nothing works. She was my first girlfriend, first kiss, first everything. I would die just to hold her in my arms once more and tell her I love her and hear her say it back. I would go through heaven and hell for her. I've seen councelors and gotten expert help. They really never give me an answer. I've cried for the past five days and I've had trouble breathing. I know she loves me but I don't know what to do. That is where I need yall to PLEASE HELP ME. I have dreams every night of our kids and her fading away and I can't catch up to them. I need to know what I need to do. PLEASE help me.
Realize that you are 16 years old and that your emotions are at their peak at that age. You are dealing well with the situation aand I congratulate you on seeking professional help. You were also smart to go to the hospital.
Since you have had poor luck with professional counselors who were working with you in person, it is not likely that I will be able to help you much more.
Here are some things to keep in mind. Keep reminding yourself that the pain will be more bearable as time goes by and that eventually (a month?) you will be feeling better again. Talk to your parents and friends about how bad you feel. This will help get your feelings unbottled and out of your system.
Write a daily diary describing your feelings... this is another way to get your feelings out.
And, you don't want to hear this, but ... a girl who cheated on you is not the person who you want to be with no matter how you feel right now. Time will come when you will look back and see how bad she was for you in the long run.
If the counselors gave you any medications, be sure to take them as prescribed and don't expect them to work overnight. Sometimes it takes weeks for them to kick in.
Thanks for writing. Keep reaching out to anyone you can and the accumulation of advice or just listening will help you.
If you feel like you are going to hurt yourself, be sure to go back to the hospital.
My best wishes are with you!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com