Is his silence a way of saying that he isn't interested or am I doing something wrong?

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I met my crush at school through one of my friends... he's really sweet and somewhat quiet but my friends say that he likes me. He's never said it to me directly but I've seen him nod a reply when I asked my friend to ask him if he liked me. I truly believe him--but I don't understand why he doesn't speak to me. We would glance at each other in the car rider line and look away but we rarely spoke.
I mean, I'm shy talking to him in public so I didn't mind if we didn't talk in public but when I tried talking to him via email to tell him that I liked him too and wanted to get to know him better, he did not reply.
So, at school I got my friends to keep asking him if he liked me... he countinued answering "yeah, but I don't know her well..." and it seems everytime I try to 'get to know him' he finds an excuse to push me away... this confuses me.

I even told him myself in the email I sent by saying that we should talk so we could get to know one another because I really wanted to see him again.

On the last day of school, I gave him a 'graduation gift' with a letter elaborating my feelings once again. And a little before he left, I asked him if he wanted to go out with me this summer... He replied with a: "We barely spoke this year so i don't really know you and I doubt I'll be seeing you again any time soon."

When I wrote here the first time, I was told to write him a email saying that I understand that he's probably scared but I think writing another email would annoy him and I don't want to give him a reason to push me away anymore than I feel he already is...

Is his silence a way of saying that he isn't interested or am I doing something wrong?

Thanks again. Advice
I remember you describing this problem and you tried my suggestions-- and bravely too.

His behavior is truly bizarre and my only guess is that he is too shy to do anything with you. You have given him every chance possible to make some kind of relationship with you.

You are not doing anything wrong, he is just strange, in my opinion.

So, unfortunately, any further move you make will be probably make him annoyed.
My advice is to find another fellow.


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