Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Okay, here it goes...
I met a boy in April when my friend, a natural loud-mouth came over to me and dragged me to him telling me that he liked me... He was a eighth grader while I was a seventh grader and I was scared so I pulled away from my friend and this 'new boy' saying that I didn't know him...
A couple of weeks later, it was around late April after school it was raining and we were waiting for our parents to pick us up...The same guy my friend introduced me to asked me could he stand under my umbrella with me.. I said yes and that's when we got to get to know each other a little better and I realized that we had a lot in common with one another... for some days, we would catch each other in the car-rider line and make little jokes and laughing, that's when I knew I had a crush on him.
So I called my friend and told her that I wanted to get to know him better. So she tried to get us to talk but he acted really shy around me and wouldn't say much and I was getting the impression that he wasn't really interested in the first place so I stopped talking to him.
When the friend that introduced us tried to get us to start talking again, I would say "no... I'm scared" and refuse telling her that I doubted that he even liked me. However, she proved that he did by asking him with me standing a few feet away, he was nodding saying 'I don't know her well but yeah, I kind of like her' and stuff like that... So I got the courage to email him and tell him how I felt... He never replied.
This week was the last week of school and I really wanted him to know that I wanted to see him again even though I would still be in middle school and he would be in high school so I got him a 'graduation present' and wrote him a note asking him why he didn't reply on my first letter and repeating my feelings and why I acted the way I did. On the last day of school, I gave the gift and the letter to him but when I gave it to him, his friends were glaring at me which made me nervous and a bit rude towards him... I tried to say as little as possible. And he met up with me after school to say thank you, but when I asked him out he said: "I don't really know you that well and I doubt that I'll see you again" and it really hurt because I worked so hard to come over my fears and I made that clear in the letter I wrote to him... I hid from him until his parents picked him up, I was actually crying after he said this all to me... I don't want to move on because I thought that he liked me and my friends tell me that he says he still does but he's still scared.
What is this suppose to mean? He confuses me so much.
Sometime 8th grade boys are not as mature as you would hope.
He's probably telling the truth when he says he likes you but he is scared.
Your best bet is to contact him by email and say that you understand that he feels uncomfortable talking with you in person so maybe you could talk by email for a while and someday start talking on the phone.
Eventually, he may feel comfortable enough to go out on a date with you.
I hope so!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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