We always got on really well and this is starting to tear us apart
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi, can you please help me i feel like i'm going mad.I am a 22 year old female and my boyfriend is 28. We've been going out for the past four years and get on really well, but in the last year i've changed. I've become very jealous not all the time but still too much. There is one girl is particular who is going out with someone but everytime she's around my boyfriend she's giving him compiments and rubbing his arm. I have asked him about it and he just says that's why she's like. Now she is a pretty girl but she would rather spend all night talking to him rather than me even if i am right beside him. I don't know whether she is trying to just wind me up or whether that really is the way she is. My boyfriend assures me that he loves me and that i am much better looking than her which I believe him when he says so. I don't have a lot of confidence but i'm getting better than i was. I'm not sure whether this is to do with my lack of confidence or the fact that when i was going out with my boyfriend first i was a bit of a b*t*h to him and cheated on him (he knows this). Please help we fight over this so often lately and i don't feel as close to him as i used to be. We always got on really well and this is starting to tear us apart. Please help i don't want to lose him
Jealousy is a nasty habit that can ruin relationships.
Try to chase away the jealous feelings and thoughts by fighting against them when they enter your mind. Tell them to go away and not bother you, that you have a faithful boyfriend who loves you. After you ignore them many times, the jealousy will gradually go away since it realizes it can't touch you anymore.
Regarding the fighting. You need to ignore the stupid fights... in other words just agree with him. For the more serious fights you have to realize that they should be discussions not fights. Calm, reespectful, loving, honest, and caring should be the hallmark of these discussions which will bring you closer together with your boyfriend.
Best luck to you!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com