So my girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me becasue she thought she was missing out on life.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
So my girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me becasue she thought she was missing out on life. It turns out she really just wanted me to come back to her, which I didn't so she came back to me. It broke some trust in her when she did that, so it was already tainted. When we started dating again, I asked her if she al been with anyone else, she said that she would never, but there was something in her voice that was not right. Anyway I found out that she was sleeping with her boss just weeks after we broke up then she ended it with him and came back to me. I feel betrayed that she lied to me about it and I had to find out on my own, she said that if she told me then there would be no chance that we could be together. Now I am jealous of everybody I see her talk to, I feel as if I am not good enough. Is there anyway to get over these feelings because I am still really in love with this girl? Please help I am very confused.
You have reason to be jealous and she owes it to you to help you get over it.
You seem to be willing to forgive her which is a good thing. Now the problem is getting over jealousy.
Jealousy is a very nasty habit that must be broken so that your good relationship can continue. Talk to these jealous thoughts and feelings and tell them to go away and not bother you. It will take time and persistence because the jealous feelings are accustomed to using you. If you keep telling them to go away, eventually they will because they realize that they have no control over you anymore.
Also discuss your feelings with your girlfriend so that she can help you where she can. She should help you rebuild your self-esteem so both of you can get on with a happy relationship.
-- from George
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