He has been loyal, but he also lived a very wild life before me
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost five years. I met him after a nasty divorce with my ex-husband who cheated on me. Since then I feel afraid it will happen again with my now boyfriend. He has been loyal, but he also lived a very wild life before me. I am always wondering if he will get bored with me and cheat. I hate feeling this way, and I know it is more me than him. How can I stop feeling afraid and woried he will cheat and that I am not good enough. I am very tired of feeling jealous.
Worried and Afraid
Jealousy can ruin relations.
It is a very nasty habit to get into and should be fought tooth-and-nail. Work with your boyfriend to talk out your feelings, not in an accusatory manner, but in a respectful, honest, trustful, open communication. By talking like this you will naturally build up trust in him.
When jealous thoughts come into your mind, fight them by telling them that your boyfriend is faithful and that they should go away. If you tell them often enough to stay away they finally will get tired of trying to bug you.
Worse case, you will need to see a professional counselor to get help.
Wishing you the best of luck!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com