Like many other people I've had relationships that seem like I'm the one getting hurt
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Like many other people I've had relationships that seem like I'm the one getting hurt. The first one left right after he took my viginity, The next one of two years, jc, left because I wouldn't have sex with him. I just didn't feel comfortable being pressured into something I'm not ready for. I think that is atleast resonable considering the circumstance. Well, Now the least expected happen, My boyfriend Jeremy is cheating on me. When we first started going together, we would call eachother everyday. He told me two weeks after we had started dating that he loved me. I told I would say it only when I meant it because I believe those 3 little words hold a lot of power. I said I loved him the next day. Our relationship was great and I was finally opening myself up to him. I was normally reserved, and quite before that and now I'm outgoing, and I was open to try some new things with him. When I first met him he seemed like the perfect gentlemen. I took him to go met my whole (18 aunts&uncles;54 cousins) family. He seemed like he had a lot of fun, and enjoyed it. He even said he loved my family. Well, I was at work while he was visiting my cousins house since they were really close. I called over there and he was telling me he loved me and wanted marry me, and have kids with me. The subject of marrige came up earlier but the children thing never had. I told him I wanted to wait to have kids, till after wwe were married. He said he wanted a child now since he never wanted to loose me. I sincerelly loved him with all my heart. I've never felt so free to love and not scared to get hurt. the next week, I get a phone call from my cousin saying that he had his x-girlfriend over there and they were kissing. jeremy never once mentioned to me about her. A-matter-of-fact, I never thought of it. So my question is WHAT THE HELL DO I DO? Considering the personal circumstance, do i leave him, try to work things out, or just confront him then leave him. He doesn't know that I know about this yet, and my head is filled with thoughts of him kissing her and it hurts more than anything. I know in this website it says not to think about it because it makes it worst. But seriously, WHAT DO I DO? I'm completely clue-less on how to confront him. I thank you so much for answering my question. There are no words to discribe my gratitude. Thank you also for all you do for the other people that ask questions about spouses, girlfriend/boyfriends, that cheat on them.
First, confront him with the information and see what he says. There is a remote possibility that it is not true.
If he admits it's true, then I recommend that you dump him. You have had enough trouble in your life without another one. He will probably plead and beg that you take him back, but you should hold strong.
There is nothing worse in a relationship than cheating. It negates all the positive aspects of a relationship: trust, honesty, and respect. You don't need someone who has such little regard for you.
So, say goodbye and feel good!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com