she would tell people she barely knows personal things
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I'm a 30 year old male, i have been seeing my girlfriend for 2 months, i am now in love with her & she with me, this is where my jealousy issues have begun. She is far more, lets say attractive to the opposite sex than my previous patners, (she is stunning), my major concern is that she is such an open person, she would tell people she barley knows personal things that i wouldn't even dream of telling them, when i'm with her & her friends, conversations often come up about her past exploits, (boyfriends, lovers, and guys that like her, even now), this makes me feel extremely uncomfortable, and once again, on the flip side if she was alone & with my friends, i would not even go there. She does dress very sexy, where possible, even to go and play pool in a pub around the corner, she loves attention! i have treated poorly in for the last 3 weeks or so, and have thought numerous times of ending the relationship, i just can't though, i really love her, maybe i'm just a sucker for punishment, i told her that i really want to get away to somwhere nice & spend 4 days alone, with no distractions, but that is about a month away, i am worried what will happen in the meantime.
Any advice would be well received.
You have a real flirt on your hands. This is not unusual with a very attractive woman. Part of her flirting is to share personal information which makes you uncomfortable.
First thing is to let her know that her behavior is making you uncomfortable. Choose a few examples so she understands. Tell her that if she could cut back a little on the behavior you would be very appreciative. You could even think up a signal so you can tell her when she is going to far for comfort.
You should recognize that she is not going to change very much. She is so used to being spontaneous that it would be asking too much to expect her to turn into a more controlled person.
So, it is likely that you are going to have to make a decision. Can you accept her the way she is or not?
-- from George
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