Long distance relationship problems
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I guess I should start off by saying that I have looked through everything you have to offer on this site that I could find time to look at that pertains to this question. What I really need is a second opinion or another viewpoint. I have had a long distance relationship (hopefully under right question topic) for about two years now and we have been up and down like every other couple in America. It seems though that she is growing apart more and more as time goes on. I should explain that I have a busy schedule and sometime cant call for a couple of days due to mainly hockey. I am on a team trying to get a college scholorship and we go on rodatrips for days at a time in which time I have no free time. It seems though that when i do call (which is about three times a week AT LEAST depending on schedule) that she never picks up or is busy or just cant talk for god knows what reason. She RARELY calls me back and when she does all she talks about is herself and her life. Plus to top that off all i ever hear about is her guy friends and recently due to prom.....well prom. She is going to FOUR different proms this year with four different guys. We have had talk after talk about this kinda stuff but it never sinks in and i never see change. I guess i just dont know if its worth my time anymore because i just dont see how we can work out if she keeps acting like this. On a brighter side i couldnt be more in love with anyone else right now. Shes everything to me and we connect so well that its scary. We have met in person a couple of times over the years and have been intimate which surprisingly made our relationship spectacular after. I guess to sum it up that i feel were losing it all and this wont last forever cause i cant be perfect for her and she wont change for me or understand my point of view on all her guy friends...... which to give u a perspective is more than 25. is there any hope? if so what can i do?
Mr. anonymous.......(ya its sad lol)
It sounds like your problems stem from the long distance relationship.
I think that if you two could be together more often that you wouldn't have these troubles. Hockey season should be over in the not too distant future, and you will have more time to pursue her.
It is puzzling why she doesn't want to talk to you very much and rarely calls you back. This is something that the two of you should talk about and find some compromise. Regarding all her male friends, I can understand how you might find this threatening, but I don't think you are going to change her in that respect. 25 guys is better than one or two really.
You and she need to have some serious in-depth talks to find out how you really feel about each other. Find out if she is losing interest in you. This will give you an opportunity to do something about it, or to drop her if that's how you feel.
Sorry you are in this predicament!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com