You have to trust him
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
i have been going out with my current boyfriend for four months on and off. The reason for the on and off was my fault because at the time i didn;t know what i wanted. But now i know i want him and i'm happy with him.So we have been going full swing for almost a month. But there's a problem. I am a naturally jealous person. And he's the kind of guy that has alot of girl's numbers in his cellphone. I don;t get to see him much during the week because he lives in the dorms at his college and i live at home thrity minutes away. so the weekends are really our time. But the point is we talk on messenger during the week. He also talks to alot of girls on there. An usually when i sign on to messenger he always seems busy talkin with other girls. THis bothers me so much. And i have no reason to distrust him except for the fact that his girl frineds call him and i have been lied to before so i don;t know if i can trust him.It would be so easy for him to cheat on me. I don;t know what to do.
You have to trust him. No relationship can stay good without trust.
Build up the trust by speaking truthfully about your concerns and don't give up until you feel satisfied.
At the same time you need to build up your self-esteem. Whenever a jealous thought or feeling enters your mind, tell it "He's my boyfriend, he loves me, and wouldn't cheat on me." Pretty soon the jealous habit will get tired of your consistent reply and the feelings will give up because they know they can't affect you anymore.
Jealousy is more of a habit than anything and you can beat it!
-- from George
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