She changed her mind

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HELP!! Okay- My god I know this is gonna sound completely insane but I am SOOO confused at what happened!! My girlfriend was staying the night at my house and once it got dark out we kinda started messing around. My and my girl have been friends for quite a while and I know she's not a virgin cuz her and my ex were on birth control together. We haven't had sex yet even though one night she had offered I said no cuz there is some stuff with this other girl that I am still not really sure about but that's beside the point. Anyway we were messing around and both naked- and now I wouldn't be this descriptive but I don't really know how else to put it- I was fingering her and kissing her and all the suuden she stops and rolls like 20 feet across the room curled up in a little ball. So I went over to see what I had done and sat there for literally a little more than a half an hour asking what did I do? Im sorry can you just tell me? and trying to guess till I finally just got so frustrated and agravated with her that I was just like ok, you know what? screw it and I went downstairs and tried to fall asleep. Well, about ten minutes later the light turns on and she came downstairs and said "Why did you leave?" ok seriously what the hell was that all about. Since then we have broken up, don't worry not cuz of that but once I found yur site I was just curious. Later on she told me that I was getting to close to her and gonna rape her- but seriously- she had even offered once to slee[ with me and now I was gonna rape her??? Can you please even try to explain to me what happened there?!?! Advice
She changed her mind. It happens often with human beings. First we say no then we say yes. Then we say yes and then say no.

This appears to have been the case with her. It's unfortunate that she wasn't able to verbalize it at the right time because it confused and hurt you. But you should be happy that she did respect her own feelings at that time.

Good luck!

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She was scared

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