Let her go on a week long vacation with her ex?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have been dating a girl for almost a year now and I am having a problem with her friendship with her ex fiance. She says she loves me and she is over him but he has told her many times he wants her back and she avoid the issue saying she doesnt want to hurt him. He is very successful and has way more money that i do. Now the problem, he takes her out to expensive meals, wines and dines her. I am still recovering financially from a divore I had 2 years ago so I can't afford to take her out much, and she is a single mother, so her cash flow is ziltch. Now she is asking for my permission to go to los cabos with him for a one week getaway, she says she really needs it and she says they are just old friends, keep in mind he doesnt want it that way. What do I do. Do I say ok and prove my trust to her or do I let her go, she is calling it her last hoora before she gets more serious with me. Confused. Please help.
This is a tough one. You hit the nail on the head when you mentioned trust. Trust is a very important component of a solid relationship. On the other hand why put temptation right in front of her?
If you think you can stand it, give her the ok. But many people would not blame you if you told her no. I'm on the fence here... if you agree with her going, and something happens, you would be better off finding that out now rather than later.
-- from George
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