He's getting what he wants
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Okay. I met this guy "G" from my ex-friend "K". At first K and G were dating but he soon figured out that she was not a good friend or lover. While G and K were dating, me and K both lived with him and his cousin "M". I didn't have a place to live so G and M let me live with them. After G realized that K was a tramp he soon kicked her out. G and M both said that I could live there as long as I wanted. One night, before G kicked K out, all of us were sleeping in G's bed. K soon fell asleep and G and I started talking and soon it turned to flirting. When things got kind of hot G told me that he wanted me to go with him to the other room to sleep on the futon. We then flirted a little more and soon he asked me to have sex with him. I agreed and we had sex. So while it was me and G and M all living in the apartment, me and G had sex at least once a day. We weren't dating but we were very intimate with eachother and we had sex often. At first I didn't want to get close with him because I didn't want there to be an emotional attachment but I soon started liking him a lot. I started wanting to be his girlfriend but we had made an agreement before that we would remain just friends so I won't tell him that I actually love him. I know he cares about me and loves me but he doesn't want to try to pursue a relationship with me. I haven't talked about it but I know he doesn't. The thing that baffles me is that if I was to be with another guy he would get jealous. It's like he doesn't want commitment but I don't know why. After 3 months of living together, G told me I had 3 days to get a job or I would have to move out. I tried really hard to get a job but it's almost impossible to get a job in 3 days so I moved out the morning of the 3rd day. Me and him still see eachother everyday and we have sex nearly everday also. I still want to be his girlfriend but he still doesn't want to pursue a reltionship with me. I am so confused on what to do! Should I sit down and tell him that either we are together, the whole nine yards, or were just friends, with no kissing, sex or holding hands...nothing?! And I also want an explanation for why he is acting the way he is, if that's possible.
My advice is to forget him and move on. He has made it clear that the only thing he wants from you is sex. Giving you three days to get a job and then throwing you out is a VERY good sign that he is not even your friend.
He is acting the way he is because he is immature and selfish... lose him!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com