Love or lust?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I met this guy online, and we've talked every day on the phone for 3 weeks. He's really nice and we have a lot in common. He's also very blunt and lets me know how he really feels about situations. I recently met him and am so amazed. I've never had such strong feelings for someone i've barely met. We've seen each other four times and still talk all the time, but I guess what i'm asking is.. i'm not sure if I love him. I know its hard for you to answer that because only I would really know the answer but things i've been feeling i've never felt before and i'm not sure what it means. He expresses his feelings to me and I want to express mine in return but I get REALLY nervous and Shaky and I can't speak. It's like im actually speechless. I feel a little compelled to tell him how I feel. I get scared, because I dont want to tell him and him not feel the same. I really need advice. Is what i'm feeling signs of love or lust? Please help!
It is unlikely that it is pure lust. You seem to be attracted to him much more than that.
You should give it some time to see what develops before committing unless you are sure you want to be his girlfriend. If that's the case, then you should move quickly by letting him know that you have strong feelings for him.
The odds are good that you two will get together and have a lot of fun.
I hope you do!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com