Talked to the wrong girl
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Well I'll start with the past. Me and my now ex-girlfriend started dating about 15 months ago after my last g.f broke up with me and i still liked her for a while... but when me and my new g.f started dating i didnt like the other girl anymore even though my new girlfriend thought i did. The two girls didnt get along because of the fact that one was an ex-girlfriend. anyways me and the exgirlfriend stayed friends while i dated the new girl even though the 2 didnt like each other. One night i got into an argument with my new g/f and the other girl called and asked for me to go out with her some of my buddies for food... so i lied to my new g/f because i knew she would get mad that i was out with the ex girlfriend. anyways after a week i told her i lied and she was really mad and it made her hate the other girl more.. she told me that if i ever talked to her again she would leave me.. we broke up a few months later and we still kept having sex but she said if i ever screwed someone else we would stop. well i screwed someone else and didnt say anything and she found out. she hated me for a while but she really loved me so she forgave me.. i started having feelings for her again so just before i left for quebec for university we got back together. the rule satyed true though. i was not allowed to talk to my ex girlfriend.. well over christmas break i was back home and i was at my high school to get my brother, and my ex-girlfriend showed up. i had to say hi, she was my friend. so we had a conversation and then i left. i told my girlfriend i didnt see her because i was afraid she would leave me, anyway about 4 days ago she found out i lied about that and she left me. i feel really bad for lying to her but i felt that it was necessary in order not to hurt her. the conversation with my ex-girlfriend was unavoidable but now im hurt and the love of my life left me, and im far from home i only get to go home every 2 months to see my girlfriend and we talk all the time on the phone.. i really love her and she means a lot.. and she tells me the same thing even though she left me... is there any tips to help us sort things out and for us to be able to get back together? we've been through a lot together. she was my first and i was hers.. and we are always happy with each other's company, we even talked about marriage. it seems wrong for us to let this go.. so what should i do to help her get over the lie that i told and get her to trust me again and have us back together? I am in first year universtiy in quebec, canada and she is in her last year of high school in nova scotia, canada
Pretty much all you can do is apologize and explain to her that it was unavoidable and meant nothing. Keep apologizing until she gets the message. You may want to send her flowers with an apology note.
-- from George
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