Ups and downs with boyfriend
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
We've been together with my boyfriend for 2 years. He loved me strong and wanted to marry me, but I demanded much of him and we often quarelled.Our breakingup longed for 2 months and was very tortuos for both. 3 months ago I told him that it was over, I don't love him anymore and I want to start with another man. He phoned me, I didn't answer. 2 days later I realised that my boyfriend was the only one I ever loved. I told him this by the phone and he told that it was too late, he doesn't love me more. It was the beginning of the nightmare for me. I phoned him (actually it's the only way of our communication), aksed him to excuse me, to get back. He didn't want. But during this time he visited me 3 times and we've spent wonderful time. He also liked it. I tried to show him that I've changed and that I love him so much. But he doesn't want even to talk about our relations. He says that he doesn't want to try and he doesn't trust me more. He can't and doesn't want. But he admitts sometimes that he misses me and I see that he intrested in my life and what i do. I can't understand him. Once he says that he wants to be close friends, later that he doesn't want to talk with me at all. I phone him and ask to come to visit me on weekends. He says that he won't come and he doesn't want. An hour later he changes his mind and arrives as quickly as possible and spends the whole weekend with me. And again the same story. Yesterday he told me that he doesn't want to hear of me at all, just because I started talking about "us". I want his love back. I believe that it is possible, but I don't know what to do.
You need to earn his trust back. Be best friends and drop the talk about "us." Be there for him and I suspect that soon he will begin to trust you again and things will be ok.
-- from George
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