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Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I've been in a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now. We are very close and happy and we see each other almost everyday. We enjoy doing things together and spending time together as much as we can. However, when things go wrong (i mean, arguments & fights) he somewhat turns into a different person that I know. He acts awfully defensive when I'd ask him questions about what he's doing and especially when I get suspiscious of his actions. I don't accuse him but I do ask him in a proper manner and nicely say what I wanna ask and I already think. I usually just ask him these questions when I see something to prove my suspiscions but most of the time if there is nothing to be suspiscious about I dont even get to think about it. Anyways, my point is, I admit being jealous a lot most of the time. I have promised my boyfriend that I will try my best to avoid it, and I do, but sometimes when I see things that make me suspiscious such as seeing him online after he tells me that he's going to sleep or he wants to get off the phone so bad. These make me feel like there is an "someone" else. My question is what can I do to avoid this feeling? I even sometimes get dreams about him cheating. I really don't know if this is telling me something important or I'm just simply being too paranoid. I have been cheated before in my past relationships and they were painfully unforgettable. But I really want to give this relationship a chance and make it work out. This has been really bugging me for a while now. What should I do?
Jealousy is no fun and causes harm. You are wise to ask about how to reduce it. My advice is to look at the tips we have on this subject at: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/23682
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com