Jealous? Talk to her.
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hi well im in high school and so is my girlfriend. Well see i think i might have a little problem with jealousy and here is why i think that. My girlfriend just recently came to my school and she already has alot of friends guys and girls. Well i thought it was great for her to have friends even though half of them are guys and the other girls. Well i would always either go to her house or she would come to my house and spend time with eachother you know the normal thing. Her step mom wont let me come over there or her come over here because there was a death just recently in her family and her step mom wants her to stay with her(i know its a little wierd)so me and her have just been talking on the phone for now. Anyway lately when she tells me how her day was and what all her friends did about 85 percent of the time she is with more guys than girls and lately its been kind of making me jealous. Like oh today me and a bunch of my guy friends were skipping class and went to hang out and smoke(notice guy friends not girls)or me and one of my guy friends skipped lunch together alone and hung out or one of the really bad ones that made me jealous and almost think she cheated is my guy friend stole my purse and ran into a neihbrohood next to school and i went after him and then the school resource officer came after us and me and him ran and then me and him broke into a house and stayed in there alone for like 3 hours. Then just today she had ISS at school and her guy friend named daniel was skipping class so he could smoke and she said she went looking for him because daniels best friend named kevin was looking for him also and i said "why were you looking for him alone honey" and she said "oh because kevin wanted me to look for him because he couldnt leave the room" after she just had said kevin was looking for him to. I just dont know what to do i have mixed feelings of jealousy and her cheating on me with one of the guys and im confused and dont know what to do about it. I mean i have always been able to trust her but lately i have had doubts here and there and i need to on what to do to keep myself positive. I just need to know what you think. Do i have the right to be jealous or not? is it right for me to be jealous or not? is my girlfriend cheating on me or not? please answer those questions and help me out with this problem. Thanks alot
It is not unusual for jealousy to arise in a relationship. But jealousy is not healthy for any relationship since it shows mistrust. The important thing is to start communicating with her and express your worries. Since she cares for you, she should put your mind to rest and reduce your jealousy.
Also, take a look at the tips we have on jealousy at: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/23682
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