Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I met a Canadian cutie when I was on tour. We stayed in touch throughout the last year (She is in Calgary, AB, I am in Atlanta, GA).
One-month ago, she told me she was been falling in love with me. I fell hard for her (I have feelings for her that I have never experienced with anyone else).
I asked her to marry me, and she said yes. I thought things were really cool. Then, I found out through talking with her and her friends that she is a major flirt. She is constantly going out with guys, chatting with them, and flirting. Then, the worse news: she has three guy friends she has had sex with and still is in touch with them. I want to believe her when she says that she is only friends with all these guys, and her feelings for me are true. I have been experiencing serious jealous feelings over her past boyfriends (We have never had sex). Sometimes when I call, she doesn't answer; and if she does, she is out of breath. I am afraid she is cheating all the time. She says she would never cheat on me. I am feeling angry and jealous. Please .. . .is there any help for me?
You have to talk this out with her at length. There is a major disjoint between what you are thinking and what you want to be thinking. Lay it on the line and let her know you want the truth no matter what it is. It is unfair for you to be dangling in the air wondering. Long distance romances are never easy.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com