Be just a friend
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
ok..so my story is kind of complicated. to make a long story short..basically, i met this guy online about 4 years ago. we hit it off really well..we talked and talked for hours and hours at a time..i was really falling for him..and then he told me he was engaged..it crushed me, but i decided to continue with our friendship..i didnt want to lose him as a friend...so anyway, he got married..(about 3 yrs ago)..and we stopped talking for a couple of months..but then he started comming back online..so we started talking again...we've been talking, like i said, for about 4 years now..and just recently he confessed to me that he was in love with me...that he's feelings things he's never felt before..and that he wants to be with me..i feel the same way about him. i honestly think that he could be the one for me..the only problem of course is that he's married...he tells me he would do anything to be with me..but at the same time he tells me that its frustrating that all we're ever going to have are our feelings..and that we cant act upon them.. i'm so confused..i dont know what to do. i love him soo much..he's a very special person in my life, and i don't know how i will be able to say goodbye to him forever..we tried it once..but we just couldnt...it was too painful..i dont think i can..although i know i probably should. i dont know what to do..HELP!!!!
Keep talking to him as a friend. Don't dwell on your feelings for each other because that would be cheating. Keep the conversations away from love.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com