Guy is afraid
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have serious feelings for a guy at work. I'm 21 and he's 24. He shows all signs of liking me and even said this to one of our mutual friends, but he said he was afraid because he wants to move in about a year. He said he doesn't want to leave someone behind, or have them move and then not work out. The interesting part is that after our work Christmas party he asked me for a ride home, then if I wanted to come up. So I did, we chatted for awhile, watched a movie and cuddled. Then it came to that point of the night, stay or go. So I asked him if he wanted me to stay or go and he said stay, so I did. We fooled around, but didn't have sex. I was scared because I have been really hurt in the past and have problems trusting people. The funny thing is that I trust him and haven't felt this way about anyone before. The next time I saw him I talked to him about what had happened. He said that our mutual friend put ideas in his head, which she didn't and that he wasn't looking for a relationship because he wants to move. He also told me that he gets attached easy. I know he likes me and I can tell by the way he looks at me, but he is so shy. I think he has been hurt badly in past relationships too, which really scares him. He still acts the same around me at work and still flirts. I want to tell him how I feel so bad, but I am afraid that he will not open up. Does it sound like he is just afraid, or does he really not like me?
He's just afraid. Tell him you will stay with him as long as a year if things work out. If he wants to move then you will have to figure it out.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com