Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend of 4 years recently broke up with me. When we were together we were very loving and we often talked of marriage. There was no jealousy or cheating and he was and is great. When he broke up with me he said he didn't feel in love with me anymore, although he couldn't say why, and he didn't want to be in a relationship right now. He said he cared for me and wanted to stay friends. I told him I still loved him and I called and e mailed a lot and I think this pushed him away a bit. He was nice to me but said he didn't regret it and didn't think we would get back. He said he misses me sometimes but is very busy and hasn't had a lot of time to think about the breakup. Near the end things got routine and I might have been clingy so I don't know if that was a factor. He has told me he still wants to be friends and cares but feels uncomfortable seeing me right now and wants time away. He doesn't call anymore or write e mails but we are supposed to meet at the end of the month for his birthday. I really do still love him and I want to get him back. I do not want to move on and I want to know what I can do to win his love back. I also wonder why he seems to be dealing with this so well. He cried when we broke up but now he seems better? Do guys handel breakups better or will it just take time for him to process his loss? I was good and loving to him and always faithful. He was also good to me and we got along and were very close. Do I stand a chance in time?
Time heals everything. In your case your bad feelings may be healed; or, his feelings of indifference may heal. It is hard to say what you could do. Just be yourself but don't push your relationship goals on him directly. You will be nice and kind of him, of course. That's about all you can do. Sorry.
-- from George
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