Is dancing breaking a trust?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been dating this guy who i met at work for about 3 months almost. I probably see him outside of work once maybe twice a week. We do work different hrs. I work 11am-7:30 pm, and he works 8am-4:30. So it does make it kinda hard. This past weekend i went out to a club to see a band play and he was there. We usually dont talk to eachother when we see eachother out. That is time with our friends. Well last noght i had one too many drinks and started dancing with a guy. He got mad and came up to me and tapped me on the shoulder and sais "good job" and walked away. He refused to talk to me the rest of the night, and i just went home. I called him when i got home and he told me that he wasnt sure if he was still gonna talk to me or not because of what i did. Then he begins to tell me that he isnt sure if we would ever be "together" because he cant trust me. He has been saying this for awhile now. even before any of this happened. I know some of this is from his past relationships. But the question i have is should i even continue trying to talk to him because of the whole trust thing, or are there things i can do to gain his trust?I really like him alot and he knows i do.
You need to have an open honest conversation with your boyfriend about what you consider to be acceptable behavior. I think he over-reacted to your dancing. But, if he is bothered by it you should put it on the table for discussion. Your relationship will be stronger the more you talk about what you like and don't like. Try it, it will do you good.
-- from George
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