Wants to tell fiancee
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I have known this guy for 12 years now. When I first met him he was engaged to be married. We connected very strongly as friends only. No sex until we had known each other for about 6 months. He and I both became very close. We had to break it off because of his engagement and he eventually got married. I eventually married myself. We didn't see each other much after that but did run into each other and rekindled our friendship. He was separated and involved with a girl in Florida and I was separated. We have been intimate many times but he knows that I feel as if he is my "one" true love. He is now engaged to this girl that he met in Florida yet he still comes to see me and we sometimes have sex. He tells me he cares for me and wouldn't do anything to hurt me. There are times I want to tell his fiance what he's doing but without him knowing I had anything to do with it because if they break up then I would want to be the one he comes to. (sounds like a fantasy) I know what I need to do...just stop seeing him but that little light of hope is still there because he's not married yet. He has told me that if it weren't for him being with this other girl that he's engaged to then he and I would be together. My question is how can I tell her about this without him knowing I had anything to do with her finding out? Thanks!
Sorry I don't know of a way, and wouldn't advise it in any case. He could likely find out and that would ruin your friendship. If he truly loved you, he would have chosen you first both times he had that option. I suggest you drop your schemes and move on. Sorry!
-- from George
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