Living together causes problem
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I havemet a guy whom i really am interested with. The guy wants that we get engaged. He is just new to this area we are living now(he just moved beforte 2 months). I have been living here for the past 4 years. I was living with my boyfriend for a year. As a hindu, that is not allowed by our culture. I tried to make it a secret, but most of my ex's friend saw me there when they visited him. Now that i have met this guy, a hindu as well, I am afraid that he might know about it after our marriage. Last night , I saw him talking with two other guys, and one of them is a friend of my ex and have seen me at his house and knew that I was living with him.It was at night and this guy didnt see me. I am really afraid that I won't be able to marry and have a peaceful relationship because of my past. I am even afraid to walk with my boyfriend on the streets fearing my ex will come to talk to me or his friends might see us and inform him about my previous life. What should I do? I care about this guy and don't want my past to be a reason of our break up. Please help.
I am sorry your are in this situation.
My advice is to tell the guy what you have done. If he loves you, he will put the past aside and move on with the future. Honesty is a very important aspect of a relationship and you shouldn't start off with a hidden lie.
In any case, the truth will probably come out one day and then things will be harder to deal with. And imagine fearing for the rest of your life that somehow he will find out.
Hope this works out ok for you,
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com