Was controlling and jealous
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
me and my ex were together for almost 3 yearsthe first 2 years were almost perfect then i started to become controlling and jealous.we have an 18 month old son together and i have to take him to her on the weekends.when we meet i try to tell her how sorry i am for everything and that i still love her and think that we should try to work it out.every time she tells me to shut up about it.we get along o.k. besides that.we still talk everyonce in a while and even hang out a little.i told her that i am sorry for all the yelling and anger,but she doesn't seem to care.we have been broke up for around a month and i believe she is already having sex.is there any possibility of us getting back together?
You have one great thing going for you... your child. This gives you an opportunity to see your ex on a regular basis and gives you a common bond. Use each opportunity to be on your best behavior (as you have been doing) and continue to tell her your are sorry, that you understand what your problem was and have made progress in that area.
The area, of course, is being controlling and jealous. Be sure you do not use that behavior with your ex now. She may learn to trust you again if you can control yourself... and actually work on changing yourself.
We have some good tips on jealousy at: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/23682
There are also good tips on getting your ex back at:
I hope the best for you and hope you get back with your ex.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com