Fighting For a Girl
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
my friend is goin out with the girl i like and all my friends say to fight him for her and he is a really good friend so what should i do
You act as if the girl has no say! She chooses who she wants to date, and your friend trusts you. To fight a friend for a girl destroys both relationships. The girl now thinks you're willing to harm a good relationship for ulterior motives, whatever those are. And you've also proven that you can't be a good friend, that you put your own desires over those of anyone else. Since all great relationships are based on friendship, that's doubly bad.
Be there for BOTH of them. Hang out with him, talk to her. If you're at the age that people are actually telling you to actively destroy a relationship for you own reasons, I'm guessing you might be in high school or younger? If so, give it time. Most high school relationships break up within the year. If they do, then you'll be there to help her. If they don't, your knowledge and experience that you learn being with them will help you find a girl that DOES truly appreciate you, and you'll have a fabulous couple to double-date with.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com