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Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Hi guys thanks for helping! Got a problem i am 20 as is the girl i love more than anything in the world.....trouble is she does not know it.
We are already friends(about 1 year, liked her for 6 months) but have not really hung out. We occasionally talk on phone and exchange txt mssges (go to same college, work at same gym 1 day a week together). dont know how she feels back though, thats my problem. I know from a friend that she has though i like her but was not sure. I think its in the back of her head when she sees me, that i might like her. She used to be real flirty especially this summer. She offered to hang out or play basketball after work. I'd pick her up on it but she'd cancel or say she couldnt tonight because she had to study (taking several summer courses). I did not understand her she would come to me and then say she couldnt.(?) I am really shy and think more than once i accidentally gave her the impression i wanted to be just friends, perhaps causing her to back off, assuming she liked me in the first place. I dont get to see her much so i sent her a txt saying maybe we could hang out 4 lunch sometime, if she wanted to, told her i really care about and i like hanging out with her. She answered "i am sure we could figure something out sometime." Not sure what to make of that, i think its positive, family does too. Last week she asks if theres any girls i want to date in my classes, of course i said no (because i want to date her). she said kind of jokingly "we have to find you a girlfriend this semester". She suggested two of our mutual friends to which i said no to both. Again today while i walked her to class she said it again. I sighed and changed the subject because it hurts, i dont know if shes sending a signal or just talking because shes a great, sweet girl. my belief is why bring it up three times unless your interested? Am i wrong? Is she being coy? It crossed my mind that she was doing this because she wanted me to have a girlfriend and forget her assuming she knows how much i like her, but thats probably me being paranoid. The downside is she is not flirting as much and i believe A:she thinks i want to be just friends or B: she may not like me like that. Theres more to the story including gifts for her birthday/christmas and that went well, she was shocked. I know for a fact she thinks i am vey sweet and a gentleman, if that helps. Hopefully you can help it would be appreciated.
The answer is still the same: she likes you as a friend but not in any special way. She has had numerous opportunities to advance your relationship if she wanted to but she hasn't done so. And, I assure you, she is aware that you have strong feelings for her.
You ought to accept her advice and let her help you get a girlfriend this semester. You will be much happier if you do. Very much happier... trust me.
You are obviously a wonderful guy, and some girl will adore you.
Best of luck finding a new love,
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com