Move or stay?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Well where do i begin! First ive been with my girlfriend on and off since march, mostly off. She has broken up with me for a couple different things on her side but we always seemed to get back together. Latley ive just found out that her and her family will be moving to another state. I want to move away and go with her, but i dont know if its the right thing to do or if ill just end up alone and stranded in a place i dont know. Lately ive been trying to spend as much time as i can with her but i have a full time job at night and im a full time student in college during the day, so i only have 2 days a week to see her. but it seems that on my days off she is with her friends, one in particular im not comfortable with. She used to like him but at the time he didnt have feelings for her but now they have been together alot and i dont know if thats changed. I also know that she has cheated on me in the past but ive forgiven her about that. She keeps talking about this guy and puts off her plans with me to hang out with him but she says that they are only friends. I dont want to move away if she can find someone else like this, but ive never felt this away about anyone and the thought of losing her drives me crazy, what do i do!?
My advice is to stick where you are. You are established working and going to school. Leaving and trying to start up again would be difficult. Not only that, but it seems very clear that your friend doesn't consider you a priority in her life.
You should let her go and then keep in contact through phone, online, and occasional visits. Only after you are sure that she cares strongly for you should you consider moving.
If you haven't done so already, ask her how she feels about your moving. If she is against it that pretty much settles it. If she is for it, I would be very wary that she may not know what she really wants.
Sorry you are in such a predicament!
-- from George
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