Mixed Signals from a Girl
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
There is a girl I like in my high school. I'm sorta friends with her and I can't tell if she likes me as just as a friend or more. I hangout with her sometimes, but I'm afraid of coming on too strong. Sometimes, I have come on stronger than I think I should. I get some signal from her that she does not want to be around me. She talks kinda quick on the phone and tells me she has to go. I can't tell whether she is telling me she is busy, or if she just wants to get away from me. What is going on?
It could be that she's nervous about the relationship - that she doesn't want to damage the good friendship she has with you by risking something more. It's a pretty common fear. It sounds like you're doing a good job of trying to slide into it slowly - by keeping up the good friendship and just increasing it a bit so she doesn't get skittish.
I'd keep going at it in that manner. Keep flirting and being friendly, give her a hug hello or goodbye sometimes. Ask her about her family, tell her about yours, build up that connection. If she does resist a bit, just wait a little while and then try again more slowly. Hopefully she'll see that you won't lose the friendship by getting closer - that it'll just make the bond between you more strong.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com