Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I was visiting my boyfriend recently and then when I left...I decided to come back and spy on him. He was jacking off at the computer at his house and I came in to talk to him and boy, was he embarrassed! He fled to his room and he was cursing to himself and to me and then we got into a discussion and solved the problem...but I decided to spy on him on the next afternoon and he was still at his computer, but this time he wasn't doing anything naughty. He caught me spying and then we got into a verbal argument and physical fights. He decided that we should be friends. He told me that maybe someday we could become boyfriend/girlfriend again. But I asked him if he'll ever find another girl and his answer was, "I don't know." What should I do? I love him so much and I want him back! Is he worth it?
No, he is not worth it but not for what he was doing at the computer which is normal male behavior. The reason he is not worth it is because he engaged you in a physical fight. Physical fighting is the precursor to wife abuse. You don't need that in your life.
If you decide to get back together again, make it very clear that the next time there is physical fighting that your relationship is over. Read our tips on Arguments/Fighting at: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/23684
Best of luck,
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com