He cheated on me but we are working it out
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I caught my boyfriend of 2 yrs cheating on me about 2 months ago. He refused to tell me anything more than she is just a "friend" and I dont know how deep it is. ( I caught them being quite physical in a public place.) His lies where incredible, almost scary someone could pass it off so well. I know there where others, I just couldnt prove it. In all the meanwhile telling me how much he loved me, etc.
I decided to give him a second chance, told him to come clean and recommit to me. He said he was very sorry for hurting me and I know he was. He said he wasnt sure about us going to the next level and had some issues within himself he had to come to terms with and that he wants to work it out with me and will not take his insecurities elsewhere.
Well, things are better than ever. I am still hurting and whenever we are having such great times I think of his cheating and all the lies which makes me hurt even more.I dont bring it up because Im suppossed to be trying to trust him.
I want to get married and have children. We are both in our 30's and feel the same way. I love this guy to death even though he betrayed me. I want to talk about this with him but I feel it is too soon. I was even thinking of proposing to him for the holidays and see what happens!
I just dont want to waste my time because Ive been there before with someone for 7 yrs that lead no where.
Please give me an opinion if Im just moving to fast or being ridiculous so soon after he betrayed me.
I am sorry to hear that your boyfriend cheated on you. It seems that you two have made a committment to rebuild the trusting relationship that you had before. He sounds really sorry about what he did and I am optimistic that you will have a stronger relationship after you finally come to grips with what happened.
Continue to discuss what happened, but in a non-confrontational manner. Simply explain how you still have bad feelings that you are trying to work out. If he is sincere in his efforts to resolve the issue, he will meet you half-way.
In my opinion, it is too soon for you to make any significant decisions about marriage etc. Give time a chance to heal your hurts.
Best of luck,
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com