Mother causes breakup
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
My girlfriend and I just past our 1 year ann. and we have had a great year together. recenlly her mom found a condom in her bathroom garbage. her mom wasn't sure what she was going to do, she was under 18 by 7 months. I think D's mom should respect the fact that her doughter is having SAFT sex and not get mad at us for doing it. She wanted to make love to me, so Did I. Now it seemed to ruined our relationship. her mom told D (my G/F) that she wants us to break up cause she is to young to be having sex. I think her mom should think, at least we were smart about it! We trully loved each other a lot. I could tell she loved me a lot. D suprized me the other day when she told me after this happend that she wants to break up, she said she wants time alone and doesn't want to be commited to one person. I'm not sure exactlly what she means by that. A week before this, she said she wanted to have kids. but latelly she hasn't told me that she loves me, or calles me "hunny" anymore, and I'm just trying to deal with it. It feels like she turned her back on me or changed her mind cause of her mother. I want her back but she said "if we were ment to be it will happen." she said maybe when I'm 18 then my mom can't say anything. I respect that, but I don't see why she would change her mind so fast. I guess thats why it hurts. we had so many good times, and she wanted to be together forever, now it seems like she is doing what her mom wants and not what she really wanted. I'm giving her space as she wanted. she doesn't really seem to care to talk to me or see me. what should I do? I don't know if I should say somthing to her mother saying somthing like "I'm sorry for having sex, with your doughter, it wasn't the right time, hope you forgive me, so on and so forth." I want her back but I want her to do what she really wants. I'm not sure anymore. she doesn't realy say anything on the phone. or answer my questions. please help me out! what can I do to get her back, if its possable! thank you for your time and help!
There are tons of tips on this site that give advice on breaking up and how to get your ex back again. One place to look is: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/advcat/12
It isn't easy to get an ex back, especially when her Mom is against the idea. Perhaps you could promise her and her Mom that you would not have sex again and see if that helps your situation. Or suggest that you only would hang out when others are around.
Best of luck,
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