Love is Not Sex
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Okay..my Boyfriend is deeply in love with me..I know he loves me because we've been together....for 2 months now and he hasn't got anything out of me..but kisses and hugs and all that rubby dubby stuff....I love him alot and It desn't seem like he's using me I mean he does spen all of his time with me, and walks me home from school and always chooses his freidns over me..which he should not do but He says that's how much he loves me.He tells me Im beautiful every day and sometimes more than once a day.He tells me My eyes are beautiful..my stomach my legs..my lips everything he likes.
I love him alot and I feel so bad for not giving him much love..like what Kind of stuff should I do to him to make him feel like he's not the only one wanting to be involved in this relationship I wasnt to do something besides talk..Please help me..
You say you're not giving him much love - but you're giving him LOTS of love. You're saying you're not giving him much PHYSICAL stuff which is NOT LOVE. Love and sex are NOT the same thing. Lots of people enjoy beautiful, great love without any sex, and many people have sex without any shred of love. In fact, many men out there *crave* a woman who will talk and share and really love them. They couldn't care less about the physical stuff, because that is pretty meaningless in the grand scheme of things.
So that's the first thing. Stop thinking of your love as "not enough" just because there isn't a big sexual aspect to it. Love IS the most important thing, and you have that. The cuddling and kissing and hugging is SO important too, and it's something that many, many people dream of having every night. So treasure that. There isn't any need to rush into anything else at all. What you have now, that's what many people wish for and would be thrilled to have.
If you're just looking for something new and fun to do, get a book on backrubs and massages! Those are amazingly fun and soothing and warming.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com