Going from Friend to Boyfriend-Girlfriend
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I met a guy in my high school. I thought I liked him but soon after I met him he started to go out with one of my friends,I was a bit upset but I let it slide. After that for the next 2 months or so we became good friends.
One day he broke up with his girlfriend and she came to me because she was really upset. That same night he called me and we talked for over an hour. He called me the next night to and that weekend he wanted to take me to a really nice lake so we went together. For the next two weeks we got together alot and we cuddled and stuff when we where alone. We never kissed though. I never told him I liked him but I though I made it obvious.
After about two weeks he got back together with his ex because she was really depressed and he wanted to make her happy, and she was moving far away so he wanted to make her happy for the time they had left and because she was really depressed. At first I felt betrayed but i eventually got over it and we still got together alot and we still cuddled. I though he was gonna wait for her to leave so we could be together even though we never eally sayed anythign abotu dating, I though we would because of how we where acting. We became closer even more over the first month of summer and this old friend of his who a girl was talking to him and she told him she likes him, at first he didn't want to start anything because he didn't want to start a lond distance relationship but now he has started to see her.
When I see him we still act the same but I never really told him how much I care about him and now I don't really want to say anything because I don't want to ruin our friendship because I still want to be able too see him as I do not. I don't know what to do or wahat to say to him, I think i should move on but I can't forget him and I don't want to.
What should I do??I think I love him but I don't know how to tell him and I don't know how he feels about me now, I though I knew but now I am unsure, and if he did like me then why would he go out with this other girl??Can a guy like more than one girl at the same time. I am so lost I saw him a few days ago, we watched a movie and he rested his head in my lap and well I just love being around him and who he is. I don't want to loose it, should I tell him and risk loosing it or do you think that is enough just to be able to still see him?? What should I do?
Your question is the classic how to go from friend to boyfriend-girlfriend question. I have an entire FAQ on this, which maybe you missed :)
You don't just blurt out how you feel. You slowly but steadily increase the connection until it is just there. ALL great relationships begin with great friendships, so it is great that you have built that base. Now you have to keep going.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com