He's Flirting but Doesn't Want to Date
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
i really like this guy and we have been aquaintances for a couple months, basically we both get along and ive noticed him staring at me and he smiles a lot at me and asks me questions he also once touched my hair softly ,
the thing is i told him i liked him and i thought he liked me back, but he told me he dosnt want a girlfriend, im a bit hurt because i feel led on by him? can you give me some advice as i thought he genuinely liked me? now i dont know if i should still talk to him ?
You're confusing two things. Yes, he likes you. He didn't say he didn't like you. He said he doesn't want a girlfriend. There could be all sorts of reasons for that. Maybe he's super busy with things right now and doesn't feel he could give you the time you would deserve from a "real boyfriend." Maybe he was hurt in the past by a girlfriend and needs time to heal and get over it before he can enter into another commitment like that.
Of course you should still talk to him! You like him, he likes you. You two are friends and get along. So keep being a friend to him, keep spending time with him. Learn more about what he is concerned about - what worries him about having a girlfriend. Maybe, if you give him some time, he'll get over the old hurt or free up some time in his life and you two can start dating. But you need to be there for him now, and if you can, gently talk to him about what is his reason for not wanting to date.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com