We Never Talk but Almost Have Sex
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Well I met this guy 5 years ago and we were really good friends we would always hang out and he would drive out of his way for me. We never fought and we liked to be around eachother i basically called him my best friend.
Well 2 years ago i left him hanging i met some other guy , got drunk and ended up with him.i didn't call my friend because the guy i meet was really controlling and abusive he wouldn't let me call anyone or do anything. i was trapped. Then I got pregnant and didn't find out until 4 months later. I ended up moving with him bacause i didn't have any where else to go. he beat me up more and more and finally kicked me out leaving me hanging. i eventually moved back with my mom and left the abusive guy. i was there stuck pregnant with the abusives baby and ended up keeping her.
Now that its been so long i really miss my best friend. We hang around the same people but we never talk to eacother anymore. the only thing is though, is that we have gotten drunk a couple times and ended up messing around. We have never had sex before and we were going to once but i said we should wait. Well 1 month ago we were messing around and we were going to do the deed and he said i have to wait. You have to remember we never talk to eachother unless we are secretly alone. I really think i broke his heart and i want to be his friend again, i don't really care about us having sex but i care about him and he don't show his emotions.
what does it mean that he wants to wait? and how can i tell him i am sorry for what i did and tell him that i want our friendship back?
You guys are almost having sex - but you never talk? That seems like something is backwards. You care about this guy. He cares about you. But you never talk about things ... and somehow you have time to run off to almost have sex together? I really think you need to put some work on your priorities.
Invite him out to dinner. This guy was your best friend. He is still around you and your circle of friends. You have to make the effort here. Talk to him. Of course he doesn't show his emotions - you guys aren't even talking! It's time to start.
-- from Lisa
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