she is going to NY and she told me that it is a 1 way ticket

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Well she is going to NY on Friday 16th and she told me that it is a 1 way ticket and she will be able to return anytime. She said that she don't want to tell me if she Loves me or not and if we are going be together when she returns, but before that she said that she don't know if we will be together this year. Well in the meantime I will try and meet and go out with other people. She saids that she is not going back to NY to see anyone particular, just to enjoy the rest of her summer, I don't know if to believe her but I have always trusted her.

When we started out we tried to hide the relationship, that was alot of burden, then I was involved in an accident which prevented me from working, so financial burden started to come on but that did not really did it for us, what started was my depression which I didn't know I have. Three guys tried to rob me and my 2 friends in their garage at gun point, then my car was stolen, then after I got it back I was T-boned and it was a total lost. While waiting for my disability date, I called my attorney and he said that he can't win my case for me, then about a few weeks later she broke up with me, thats alot for me to handle. But because of the breakup, I started to party alot and I came out of the depression and saw everything that was wrong in the relationship and it was caused by my depression and trying to hide the relationship. But now I am 95 percent better.

I told her that I believe that this is true Love what we have, she said that it hurt alot after the breakup, she didn't really have fun when she went out. She says that she misses the relationship sometimes.

Why women are so complicated? If they are hurting because they broke up, why not try to work things out. I think she needs to see that I have actually changed and that things will be different in the relationship if we try it again.

I have never felt this way about anyone else, and this might be the worst breakup she have ever went through.

Will it be likely that she will come back to me?
Deep down I believe it. Advice
Women are complicated. I will agree with that. The only way you'll ever know what they're thinking is to talk openly with them. And it sounds like you need to do that with your ex.

It's good that you recognize all the things that were wrong, and that you're working to correct them. If she sees that progress, then she is more likely to believe you when you say that everything's much better. Otherwise she may worry that she'll get dragged down in your depression again. She needs to have faith and trust in you that things will be better this second time around.

She is needing to heal from the first breakup hurt. You were probably so depressed at that point, that it was just another bad thing on top of all the other bad things. But for her, this was like a knife in her heart. She needs to get over that. And she needs to believe that you won't do that to her again. That will take some time.

I hope she returns to you. When she does, romance her and make her feel like a queen, and you'll have a much better chance of winning her back.

I wish you luck!

-- from Jenn
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