The problem is, I think her cousin is the perfect girl for me.

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I love my fiance more than anything in the whole world. I look foreward to spending the rest of my life with her. The problem is, I think her cousin is the perfect girl for me. I think she is very attractive, and she is just like me. I sometimes fantasize about her while having sex, and I think about her when I masturbate. We have kind of flirted back and forth, she is married to a guy who treats her like filth and I know she deserves better. I treat her just like I do my fiance. What should I do? Should this be kept secret or should I put it out there and see what happens? Advice
Her cousin is married. No matter how their marriage is, they are in it for good or bad or anywhere in between. Leave her alone. Feel free to fantasize about her all you want, but you'd better not take it any further than that. Yes, you should keep it completely secret because if you breathe a word of it to your fiance, she will dump you like a hot rock, or at least mistrust you for the rest of your life. If her cousin happens to get a divorce, then you are in a bind. But if you're going to be a man about it, then you should stay with your fiance and dedicate your life to her, not to her cousin. You don't want to start a family feud and alienate them from each other. That would be a no-win situation for you.

I wish you the best.


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