i have been dating my girlfriend for about 5 months now long distance and we got into a fight.
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i have been dating my girlfriend for about 5 months now long distance and we got into a fight about a 4 wks before i came home and basically i wasnt doing all the nice things a boyfriend should do so i promised her that i would try harder and make a better effort to be the boyfriend she deserves so i asked for a second chance and she said yes. since then i have been so nice to her doing all the little things girls like so they can smile sent her flowers to her job and things like that. But since i have been home ive only seen her oce and talked to her on the phone 3 times times for combined less than 5 min and she went on vacation for a week with her family and didnt have her cell phone but she didnt even call me back to let me know she was in town no i cant seem to get a hold of her to talk to her to see whats going on i nour relation ship do you think she whats out what do i do i ve been loosing sleep over this cause i really dont want to loose her help me please
It seems like she's giving you a little payback and/or testing you. Remain strong and calm. Don't go to any extremes and don't call her any more than you normally would. As long as you remain on the steady course she'll realize that you have self-repsect and won't jump through hoops and she'll also realize that you are serious.
At first she may be a little freaked out and if she asks you why you haven't reacted wildly, just say, I'm a man and I care for you... or something like that.
She'll get the idea real soon and also feel bad for putting you through some stuff, too.
Hopefully, you'll both be able to put it behind you and act more maturely in the future. This isn't meant to be a lecture, but being in a relationship is serious stuff because your feelings/needs and her feelings/needs are very serious issuses. High School is over. You will both need to realize that (and it sounds like you already have).
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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