He tells me he loves me but i dont actually no how he feels about me
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I go out with a boy, He tells me he loves me but i dont actually no how he feels about me, we talk alot about us, and he tells me how he feels, but somedays he acts a bit odd with me like hes not botherd which makes me wonder.
I really like this boy and I think im in love with him, but im not sure, i think about him everyday, hes on my mind 24/7, I feel like i would do anythink for him, everytime i see him and talk about him I have a smile on my face, its like hes the only one in my life who makes me smile. could it be a silly crush or the real thing. Does he actually feel the way i feel about him.
The basis of any relationship is honesty and trust. You have to be able to believe in what he says. So yes, believe him when he says he loves you. Why would he lie? In return, you should be honest with him about your feelings for him. Tell him how much you think about him and how much you care for him. He will love to hear it and will probably tell you the same back.
There's a difference between "in love" with someone and "loving" someone. You are definitely "in love" which is that fluttery crazy-for-him feeling you have, where you think about him on an hourly basis and get the delightful feelings when he touches your arm. You are definitely "in love".
Now, loving someone takes a lot longer and involved a history with each other of riding through the good and bad parts. It's caring about the other person where you put the needs of the relationship above your own needs. It's a calmer, deeper love where you can be apart without feeling torn up, because you know you will return to each other.
I wish you the best.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com