She's Friendly but not Enthusiastic
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Hey I've written before and I have another question. Ok well me and this girl I like always get along fine......we talk on msn every day.But lately it seems that she's lost mostly all interest in talking to me.
Before it was always as soon as I came online she'd say hey to start a convo,but lately there isn't any of that.So I'll start a convo,and the tone she uses just seems like she's angry at me.I didn't do anything,or anything I know of but it's like she's ticked off at me.I asked her about it and she says no she's not at all angry at me.
So basically I have no idea what this means at all.I was hoping you could take a look at this and tell me what you think it means?I really like this girl and we always talked a lot and got along fine,but I'm scared something has happened and it's gonna ruin our relationship.
I have asked her out and answer was ya probably but just got over a rough relationship and wants a little time before she starts dating again.So I dunno what's the deal please help me I really need it,I really like this girl and we're pretty close,we go to movies together and stuff like that.Thanx please write back.
If you've emailed me before you know what I'll say :) Only one person knows what she means by what she says, and how she is feeling. That person is *her*. You have to talk to her and find out how she is feeling. And IM is NOT the way to talk about things like that. People say all sorts of IM that they don't really mean or blow off questions. Talk to her *in person* and ask her how she feels. A relationship is about building a connection. You build a connection with someone by talking to them. If you ask me and I make a guess, what if I'm wrong? Even if I'm right, it doesn't help you TWO grow closer. If you talk to HER, you'll grow closer to her by the very fact that you cared enough to talk to her about it.
If you're pretty close, and want to be even closer, talking is key. So sit down with her and start talking, and you might be amazed at how much you find out!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com