I want her back so so much its killin me.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I want her back so so much its killin me.myself and my girlfriend well ex broke up 6 months ago now.i was one that broke it off as i was to scared to admit i am sufferin with anxiety problems.so i decided to try to solve it alone.I finally admitted to her about a month after that i broke it off for that reason.durin our relationship i would get really paranoid about her going out drinkin.ask her loads of questions about who was going,did she get chatted up etc.didnt treat her very well sometimes.recently we ave both decided to take things real slow and try to go towards gettin back together.about a week after decidin this i was out with my friends and so was she.we ended up in same disco.i saw her an her pal speakin to two guys.i flipped and stormed over and accused her of tryin to pull and that.she ended up cryin and i shoved her guite hard.i regreted it an she insisted i get help.so i did an am on anxiety medication.she agreed to meet up again and we sorted stuff out and have started to see each other in secret from our friends.problem is that she said she is scared of going for it again because of all the bad stuff that i did when going out.she dont want to get hurt.i am gettin really impatient with waitin to see what happens but love her so so much so want to be with her.she says that she sees a great improvement in me since i started medication.i feel better to.So what i am sayin is how can i help her get rid of these bad thoughts in her head?she said they are going away but some still remain.Is there anything i can do to help her forget and see i will be better this time than last.i am really determined to make it work.can i do anything to make her happy.i am startin to pressure her a little and she gets a wee bit annoyed.please help me help her.i still get real nervous when she says she is going out drinkin.we are not seein anyone else.thanks alot
You can't make her forget anything. You can, however, improve daily and regain her trust. Probably the best thing you two can do is something like couple's counseling. It seems like you have trouble talking about your feelings appropriately to eachother. If you did that in the presence of a minister, counselor, etc. It would probably help to keep things from getting out of hand.
-- from Marc
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