I Broke Up on an Ex's Word
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years last week. We broke up the night before. I heard he was cheating on me with a girl who i do not get along with at all. she has been trying to break us up for a long time. The person i heard it from was her. So i asked him, and of course he didnt admit it. he said he couldnt admit something to me that he didnt do..
i dont have any proof. all i have is this girl thats obsessed with him, and him. so we havent seen or spoken to each other in a week.. ive been really hurt and all messed up. im 18 years old and im so in love with him. hes the only person i have ever been intimate with. and its sad. so he talked to my mom and told her that he thought we should just leave things alone at this point. because even though he didnt do it, he doesnt think i will trust him. and that breaks my heart.
i just dont know what to do. i dont know the truth and i dont know whats wrong. we always had the best relationship, he moved across country for me and he asked me to marry him. i love him. how do i know what to do? i mean weather he did it or not i dont know. but i cant just throw all we have away. everyone always said we were perfect together...help me please. i cant come to one conclusion or one answer. and im just hurting inside so much. what do u think?
You dated this guy for two years - and you believed the word of a known troublemaker over his word? That doesn't sound like a "perfect relationship" - it sounds like somethings were seriously wrong if you allowed that known troublemaker to drive you two apart. If you were truly trusting and happy with him, you would have stood by his side without question.
So you have to ask yourself - what was going wrong? If you try to deny there were issues, you can never fix them. If you blind yourself to issues in life, they will end up destroying you.
I have a lot of content on the site about getting your ex back, including an ebook. Read all of the material and then sit down and talk with him. You need to start again with him - and this time you have to build a base of trust and honesty. That means you two have to TALK and address issues - including jealousy and doubt - before they get to this point again.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com