i loved him but he tries to get me drunk and he has hit me a few times
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
im 18 and have been seeing a fella who is 3 years older than me. i through that i loved him but he tries to get me drunk and he has hit me a few times. once i woke up in his bed and i dont remember what happenend my friends all said that he had raped me but i dont think so.
cause he was so sweet and like hum songs to me and give me bear hugs when we first statred going out. now he says that he will get me and that he will kill his brother for proctecting me from him. the other night he had me by the throat and was pulling up the stairs backwards i would leave him
but i have no where to go what do i do? im not studip and i can fight back but its when i am a sleep that worries me beacuse he has taken a knife to me cause i wouldnt sleep with him and he did it any way with out me sayin yes
It doesn't matter that you have nowhere to go. You always have somewhere to go. You can go to your parents. You can go to a friend's. You can call the nearest women's shelter and they WILL give you a place to stay for free until you're back on your feet again.
Staying with this man will only lead to more pain for you and possibly severe problems as he continues to hurt you. At the very least, you'll start believing that you deserve it, which is NOT TRUE! You have done NOTHING to deserve this behavior, and you should LEAVE IMMEDIATELY. There is no way in the world that there's any reason to stay. Nothing is more important than your health, which is at serious risk by staying. Would you stay in the room with a killer dog? No, of course not. But you stay with this guy out of a twisted sense of love.
He doesn't love you. No man who loves a woman would hurt her.
There is no other answer but to leave him. You can do it. There are resources out there to help you leave him. Take advantage of them. You deserve happiness, and this man will only give you a world of misery.
No matter what he says. Leave him.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com