She's Everything to Me
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I love a girl in my class from last year but i'm not able to tell her there's another guy also who's friend of her. Whenever i come close to her i feel really nervous i'm damn serious about her i'm afraid of being refused and i can't live without her. What should i do ?
First, you CAN live without her. You need to separate your desire to date her with your own self esteem. No girl wants a guy that is a wet noodle unless she's there. A girl wants a guy that is able to stand on his own, able to live on his own, to take care of himself. Yes, it would be wonderful if she could share your life with you, but if you only could admire her from afar, you would live.
So then your question is how you show her that you admire her. You become her great friend. All relationships are built on great friendships. Talk to her. Enjoy spending time with her. Go places with her, enjoy her hobbies with her. Once you are doing all of those things, then you develop a real love. What you have from afar is admiration of what you THINK she is. What you have after months of being with her daily is a realistic appreciation of what she REALLY is, which is love.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com