The past 3 months or so have been littered with mistakes made by me.
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I am 18 yrs old. I have a girlfriend of six months. The past 3 months or so have been littered with mistakes made by me. I lie to her. I said a joke that was meant only for joke but it hurt her. She is really great in bed, yet she thinks I dont think so anymore. She thinks I am lying when I tell her she's the best I've had. I am not lying. But, I love her soo much and she loves me. But for some reason, i always do things to hurt her. Recently, the thing that almost broke us up, is I insulted her. I said she was lazy in bed. I was being soo selfish. So she broke up for me for all the wrong i have done her but then she decided to give me another chance. And she said that everything I say to her will be taken as a lie to her and she has no hope for the relationship but she doesnt want me to give up. But she doesnt want to see my face just yet, she wont bring anything into the conversation on the phone (only will speak when spoken to), and she doesnt want me to even think about touching her for a while. She said she is going to be like that, and I have to rebuild the relationship from what I destroyed. I have changed myself though. But i cant figure out how to show her if I cant see her. She wants proof that I have changed, but She still doesnt want to see me in person. I know I have changed, but what is proof that I have changed? I told her what exactly i changed but she wants actions. But i cant see her. Is it me or does that not make sense? What can I do to this girl to show her that I still love and care for her and prove to her with words that I have changed? I need advice...Please...
You admit that for half of the relationship, you were a real jerk to her. It's going to take a lot for her to overcome that in order to trust you again. If you really want her back, you're going to have to play by her rules for a while. If you show her the sincerity that you really want her back and you're willing to do whatever it takes, then you're going to have to jump through her hoops. If you're not interested in getting her back, then by all means go ahead and be frustrated by her mistrust.
Good luck... it may take a while, but it should be worth it.
-- from Marc
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